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With the stress you're under and all the issues you must deal
with, a valuable member of your family is neglected. Your pet. You still
provide the basic necessities, but you probably don't realize that divorce
affects them as well.
You are their world. They watch you closely and they feel the tension and upset
of the household. The crying, arguing, loud noises affect them deeply, making
them frightened and insecure.
While your pet's stress level is increasing, the attention you give them is
decreasing. At a time when the last thing you need is more problems your pet
gives them to you.
Behavior problems vary in decree such as chewing, barking, digging, soiling
in the house, perhaps even snapping from the nervousness they feel. Any previous
bad behavior problem will most likely be exaggerated. Not understanding the
problem you get angry and yell at them making matters worse.
You need to take your pets feelings into consideration. Be gentle and give
them the extra attention they need.
"You donít have time", youíll say. "Itís only a pet; I have more important life
altering decisions to make."
That may be true, but itís to your benefit to show your pet how much you love
them. At this time in your life you are pulled in a million directions, everyone
wanting a piece of you. You need peace and quiet, and a place to think, someone
to listen. Your pet will offer this to you and more.
Go into your room and cuddle your pet, take advantage of the unconditional
love they willingly provide. Talk to them in quiet tones, they will be soothed
by your voice. You have the benefit of hearing your thoughts helping you to
think out your complicated issues. When you are at your lowest, sometimes you
feel rejected and unloved. Just look into their eyes; feel their unconditional
love and you wonít feel as alone. Rely on them, lean on them, they wonít mind.
Nursing homes have tapped into the wealth of comfort pets provide by having
them visit the residents on aregular basis. You can see the joy in their eyes
as they stroke and cuddle the furry visitor.
To help alleviate your stress, take your pet for a long walk, the excursive
helps them reduce the anxiousness they feel and helps you to clear your head.
You will truly realize why animals are called man/womanís best friend. Whatever
happens, your pet will always love you unconditionally and be there for you.
Take advantage of the tremendous comfort they give. Go through your situation
together. You will be amazed at the source of your support.
All while being your pets divorce therapist!
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